Music, Relationships

You’re not bad at love; you just have high standards. And that’s okay! #badatlove

With Valentine’s Day (aka Singles Awareness Day) coming up, love will be on the minds of many. How can you avoid thinking about such a commercialized holiday that the retailers and advertisers won’t let you escape? Unfortunately, many will also be beating themselves up over their inability to find love. Bad at Love, by Halsey, might just be this year’s single’s awareness anthem. But as I listen to the words to this song on the radio at least twice a day, I keep thinking: Are you really bad at love, or do you just have high standards?

Each verse of this song analyzes a situation in which the song writer is purportedly bad at love. In the first, Halsey laments over a boy back home who, “tastes like Jack when I’m kissing him; So I told him that I never really liked his friends; Now he’s gone and he’s calling me a bitch again.”

He tastes like Jack when I’m kissing him; So I told him that I never really liked his friends; Now he’s gone and he’s calling me a bitch again.

Hmmm. He sure sounds like a winner. I mean, if you can’t make it work with a guy who always tastes like hard liquor and thinks it’s okay to call you a bitch, who CAN you make it work with, right? Wrong. This guy sounds to me like he might grow up to be a mean drunk. Do you want to be his punching bag someday? No. You don’t. You’re not bad at love. You just dodged a bullet on that one. Let’s move on. Continue reading “You’re not bad at love; you just have high standards. And that’s okay! #badatlove”

Relationships, Truth, Written Communication

I love stationary

butterfly stationary
This is the stationary I purchased on my latest trip to B & N.

While at Barnes and Noble the other day, I spent a large quantity of time in the stationary section. I love stationary. While it doesn’t make me happy (that would be silly,) it does give me an intense feeling of pleasure to consider covering a piece of pretty paper with a good, old fashioned, handwritten letter.

I can spend as much time choosing stationary as I spend choosing a book to read. I have to get it right because I don’t write so many letters these days. Before the internet, both of my grandmothers used to send me cards and letters on a regular basis. When I was in the military, getting mail was one of the highlights of my life. One of my grandmas has since passed away, and the other still sends cards. But it’s been a long time since I have gotten anything but bills and junk in my snail mailbox. Continue reading “I love stationary”

Domestic Violence, Relationships

You gotta know when to walk away… and when to run

A pregnant woman
What do you do if your man thinks you're repulsive when you're pregnant? | A pregnant woman (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yesterday, I was listening to the Connie and Curtis morning show on my drive to school. It was Saturday, so of course the show was a replay… in other words, there was no way for me to call in and comment on the topic they were discussing. And of course, it was one of those topics I wanted so much to comment on. As usual, I decided to turn my response into a blog post instead.

Anyway, Connie and Curtis were discussing the plight of a woman whose husband had told her he didn’t want to have any more kids with her because she’s not attractive when she’s pregnant. And apparently, according to him, all of his friends thought she was repulsive as well. He sounds like a winner, right?

Let me just start by saying that my own EX-husband (emphasis on the EX) used to make similar remarks about me on a regular basis. So of course, my gut reaction was that she should leave him. This poor woman’s husband is showing his true colors. This is who he is. Either she accepts him as he is, or she doesn’t truly love him. As far as I can tell, she has two choices: love him as he is, or leave him in the past where he belongs.  Continue reading “You gotta know when to walk away… and when to run”

Holidays, Random Rants

Valentine’s Day tips

Children's Valentine, 1940–1950
Image via Wikipedia

Dear men,

It really is the thought that counts. As long as you show her that you think she’s worth thinking of, no matter what you do, it will be plenty.

Unless, of course, you’re one of those men Continue reading “Valentine’s Day tips”