Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It happens slowly, day-by-day, and often over the course of months or even years. If you are trying to transform your life, you can’t allow yourself to be discouraged a day, or a week, or even several months into the process. It isn’t going to happen just because you tell it to. Your new life must slowly become a habit before it can become a real and lasting change.
Don’t waste time worrying over how far you have to go or how little you might have accomplished by today. Instead, wake up each morning and ask yourself, “What can I do today to be a better person than I was yesterday?” Maybe that means you will eat one less cookie today than you did yesterday. Maybe that means you will write five more words today than you did yesterday. Or maybe you will decide to say one less curse word or be just a little less cranky with your kids. Whatever it means for your life, just think how far you will have gone a year from now if you continue to be a little bit better each day.
Can people really change? That’s a loaded question. I think most of us are who we are at heart. The being at our core is who we are and always will be. However, we may have made choices in our lives – sometimes due to circumstances beyond our control, sometimes due to the fact that we picked up bad habits when we were still too immature to realize that smoking (for example) really isn’t that cool after all – that have led us to make additional choices that have led us away from being the people we want to be today.
It may be that you woke up one morning and didn’t recognize the person you had become on the outside. We all do things we aren’t proud of in order to protect ourselves from the harsh reality of life. Some of these habits begin in childhood at a time when we simply are not capable of processing the events in our lives. In some cases, we have learned to do certain things (like holing up in our houses and avoiding all contact with other human beings) to protect ourselves. These habits can be the hardest to break and will not disappear in a day’s time. But that’s ok. We’re only human. We are only doing what we have been hard wired to do.
The hardest part of any journey is often the simple decision to go somewhere. If you want to take the easy way out, then just stay where you are. However, if that’s your decision, accept it and keep your complaints to yourself. No one wants to hear you complain about your life when you are unwilling to take even one step forward to make a change.
What part of your life could use a transformation? What are you doing to make it happen? Please share in the comments below.